On Being a Scorpio
I would not really consider myself as a person who is into zodiacs or astrology. However, I am kind of obsessed with being a Scorpio. And here’s why…
Scorpios are always portrayed as bad-ass mysterious women. We are creatures who are not afraid of anything or anyone and will do what we need to in order to get ahead, or get even. We are passionate in all aspects of life and love and we expect the same in return from all our relationships (romantic or otherwise).
We are hard to read and even harder to understand by those who are outside our circle. Getting close to us is something that many people will never achieve in their lifetime. We are great at small talk and benign banter, but don’t expect to know anything about what goes on in our brains until we completely trust you.
On the other hand, we have fully read you within minutes of our first encounter. We get you as a person, what makes you tick, what drives you crazy, and the motivations behind your actions. We understand how to work with you to achieve a common goal, or how to drive you completely insane if the need arises. We’ll sit there and watch how you interact with others and notice your little subconscious ticks that give away what you’re really thinking. We’ll check out how your outfit is put together not because we’re super into fashion, but because it tells the story of who you are and who you want to be perceived as by the world.
We fly off the handle at the drop of a hat and love musing about the complexities of the world around us. Getting into the minutiae of things that most people would never even consider is sort of our specialty, and our curse, especially when it comes to overthinking relationships. We love jobs and people that challenge us and situations that get our brains thinking — anything monotonous is definitely not on our preference list and will have us back on the job boards faster than you can say, “I quit!”
We hate being vulnerable, and will rarely put ourselves in situations where that is even a remote possibility, especially regarding heartbreaks and the like. We want you to open up to us and bare your inner soul. We want to know you want us and we want you to work for the right to have us as your partner. We need you to make the first move and open up emotionally; we’ll handle the first move in the bedroom after.
Once we fall in love, we fall hard. Like, head-over-heels cheesy romantic movie sort of hard. We want to be enveloped in you, in your thoughts, your deepest dreams and your darkest desires. As much as you give, we will reciprocate and then some. You are in our hearts and our minds because you earned it; you can rest easy knowing that anything intimate shared between us stays between us.
We love to be loved, but we love ‘me time’ equally (if not more so). We are always deep in our thoughts and thinking things we shouldn’t be even considering and plotting and planning out various future scenarios like ways to take over the world or what to do about the person that wronged us ten years ago that we have not forgotten about yet. We need time to unwind, space to just sit and be quiet, and will often partake in mind-numbing activities (not advocating for drug use here, but the proper strain of weed has been known to do the trick).
Once we are in love, we are loyal af and expect the same in return. We need someone to handle us, to challenge us, and who is not afraid to put us in our place every so often. We need all the intrigue before that fateful first kiss to continue on into the relationship, lest we get bored and need to find other ways of filling that void. We tend to stick around in all relationships (romantic or platonic) long after we should have cut the cord and take ‘for better or worse’ to heart, even in friendships.
Once we trust you, we trust you implicitly no matter what. However, once you break that trust in any way, it will be a good decade or so before it’s even kind of repaired. Even if it looks like everything is back to normal on the outside, rest assured our brain still fires off that memory of betrayal every time you come up in conversation or your picture comes across our news feed.
We are intense and dominant and emotional and hate to be left out of the loop. When we are excluded from things, or even more benignly just not included, we take that as a personal affront. When we trust you and you don’t share the truth with us or what’s going on in your head, we take that to mean you don’t trust us and are therefore unworthy of ours.
By the same token, we love to keep our own secrets. We are always in our own head and always have things flitting across our tongues that we actively choose not to share. Call it self-preservation if you must, but it is also a benefit to everyone else around that Scorpios don’t share every little thing that pops up in their head or the depravity of their thoughts at inappropriate times.
We are the quintessential romantics. Not in the Victoria-era of courtship type of romantics, but instead the type from ‘Her’ the Netflix show. We’re not creepy and we’re not all stalkers, but we do all have the sleuthing abilities of a CSI show detective thanks to our curious nature. And we all definitely have the ability to churn out novel after novel from our emotionally distraught and passion-filled romantic lives, even if the majority of that life so far has been with the same person.
We are passionate about all things that we do in love and in life and everywhere in between. We work hard, play hard, love hard, and challenge ourselves every day in ways that are often unexpected. We are exciting and mysterious and a little bit all over the place at times, but 99% of the time we will seem calm cool and collected on the outside. At the end of the day we are strong and fierce and unshakable.
At least, this is all what I’m told being a Scorpio is really about. If it’s true then I’m content being a member of the club.
